‘Help me die’: Family release heartbreaking pictures of mother ravaged by MS who begged for suffering to end

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Flora Lormier, 68, wanted help to die – rather than endure the constant pain

A family has released heartbreaking photographs of a mum struck down by MS who begged them to help end her life – and make her suffering end.

Over two long, agonising years, Multiple Sclerosis and its complications ravaged Flora Lormier’s body.

She became paralysed from the neck down and was in constant pain.

Robbed of all dignity – and with no hope of improvement – Flora was trapped in a living hell.

And her suffering continued to the very end.

When she eventually died last month, aged 68, Flora was just skin and bone.

Her husband Tom and daughter Tracey Taylor have released a harrowing set of pictures to The Daily Record showing why they believe Flora should have had the right to die .

They hope the images – some of which are too horrific to publish – will make politicians reconsider changing the law.

Tracey said: “Mum was just left to suffer – it was torture, absolute torture.

“Why do we give our pets more consideration than we do our loved ones?

"If my mum was a dog and my dad had just left her in that condition, he’d go to prison and the dog would be put down.

“So why is it OK for a human to suffer? The Government need to see why people want the choice to decide when to die.”

Tom, who is registered blind, was devoted to his wife of 51 years. He cared for during her illness and could feel her fading away beneath his fingertips.

The 69-year-old, of Glenrothes, said: “I can visualise just how she looked at the end. When I was washing her, the cloth would just bump over her ribs.

“She wouldn’t let anybody else do things for her – she always said I would do it. I didn’t mind.

“She didn’t want to be a burden. She was the nurses’ and carers’ favourite as she never complained.

“She was always apologising if she had ulcers and if they got worse, she’d say sorry. It got really degrading in the end.

“She’d lie in the bed and say, ‘I don’t want to be here’ and, ‘I don’t want to see you tomorrow’.

"She was struggling to talk but we knew what she was saying.

“There wasn’t a thing we could do to help free her from her pain.

“We had morphine and sleeping pills and she begged us to help her end it, but we couldn’t.

“She was like a prisoner of war who had been in a concentration camp.”

Tom and Flora were childhood sweethearts. They met on the swings in a Dundee park when they were 13.

They married four years later and had three children.

Flora was diagnosed with MS when she was 20 after she began dragging her left leg.

Tom added: “She took the diagnosis in her stride and just kind of accepted it. But at the Millennium, it really took hold.

“It would take us about an hour to get to the shops – two steps and stop, two steps and stop – but we had to fight her to get her in the wheelchair. She was adamant she didn’t need it.

“When she got her electric chair, you’d take her up the town and she would drive into everything. She’d go into shops and come out with bras hanging off the chair. We had to laugh about it.”

MS can affect people in different ways. It was extreme in Flora’s case, with her muscles being eaten away.

She died at home on December 12. The 68-year-old’s death certificate lists MS and respiratory distress.

Tracey, 51, said the end came much too late. She added: “My mum used to love her life. She’d get in her wheelchair and dance with us. She was spinning around the room at her 60th birthday party.

“It would only have been about two years ago that she would have said she had had enough.

“It’s when she couldn’t cope, when her body started failing her, when she couldn’t use her hands and she was paralysed from the neck down.

"She couldn’t get a drink by herself, she couldn’t do anything for herself.

“That’s when it should have been her choice to take a pill, fall asleep and peacefully drift away with her family around her.

“We were all around her when she passed but it wasn’t peaceful.

“These pictures are what people need to see – this is why we are fighting for the right to die.

“We don’t have to ask to have a baby, so why should we have to ask to leave the world?”